What's Your Aim?

A few days ago, I came across a video (https://youtu.be/wWPOG_hxkTE) that simply warmed my heart.  It was a clip of a couple who have been married for 73 years.  You see the husband’s wife laying in the hospital bed living her final days.  Her husband stands over her and affectionately touches her face as they both exchange the words, “I love you”.  In a moment that would melt the hardest heart, he begins to sing to her what appears to be her favorite song.  It was truly a touching moment.  It was also a great reminder in my life of what I’m aiming for.

I understand that not every marriage will work out.  Marriage involves people and whenever people are involved, anything can happen. However, it breaks my heart in this day and age how many people will throw away their marriages. I’m talking about the people that simply quit because they don’t feel happy, excited, in love, or are just plain bored. I wish more people would grit their teeth, set their hearts and minds, and commit to building a healthy marriage together. I didn’t personally know the couple in the video that I saw. I reckon that it’s safe to say that not every one of those 26,662 days they spent together were always happy or exciting, but they stayed true to their vows!  I’m positive that there were days that were hard, that they had problems they had to work through, and that there were times when they needed to forgive one another.

If more of us would have a picture of what we want our last days to look like, we’d live our present days as steps to that future. 

So my question to you is what are you aiming for?  Is it just to be happy in the now or are you thinking 30-40 years down the road? If more of us would have a picture of what we want our last days to look like, we’d live our present days as steps to that future.  My target is simple, at the end of my life, I want to be married to the same wife and I want my kids to still love me.  That’s my goal and I’m taking steps now to arrive at that destination one day.  Today I encourage you to reevaluate your aim and learn from this couple that possibly the most romantic day of your marriage still lies ahead!

Memorials and Celebrations

Today is September 11.  A somber day in American history.  A day when thousands of people lost their lives and countless other lives were changed forever.  I’ll never forget the early morning phone call I got at home from my mother to turn on the television.  I sat there and stared in horror as the towers burned and one by one collapsed.  My mind couldn’t grasp the carnage and reason behind the savage attacks.  We saw a whole new dimension of religious fanaticism.  Those images will be forever etched in my mind as I’m sure it is for so many of you.  

Today, all around the country, flags are at half-staff, people are holding memorials, taking time to remember the lives lost on that fateful day.  In the midst of all the pain and sorrow, I am most perplexed by the thought that in other places of the world, people are not holding memorials but celebrations. (Celebration)  Celebrating the fact that thousands of lives were lost.  Celebrating what they feel is an advancement of their cause, a victory really for them.  Taking pleasure in our misery.  It’s the world that we live in

 “Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.”

I’ve come to realize after working with people for so many years that there will always be people that take pleasure in misery.  People that rejoice when you hurt most.  People that will mourn in your face but snicker behind your back.  People that don’t strive to elevate their own lives to another level but rather are pleased when people are pulled down to where they are.  Why is it so hard for us to rejoice at times when others succeed?  A lot of it has to do with our insecurities we deal with in our own lives.   It says in Romans 12:15,  “Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.”  I know it’s a challenge, I’ve been there myself, but I’d like to challenge you today, don’t rejoice in the misery of people, feel their pain, empathize with them.  Don’t ever hesitate to genuinely rejoice when good things happen to them.  Having a big spirit will allow us to rejoice when people rejoice and to feel their pain when they hurt.  Today is a good reminder that there will always be people that will rejoice when we hurt but it’s also a good reminder to guard our hearts and to remember what Romans 12:15 says.  

Have a great week!